This week I have been faced with some hard things.
I have noticed myself wanting to take the easy way out and I have been well aware of the ways that I have tried to avoid and get out of facing them.
My 12 year old came to me yesterday a little bit upset. She had an assignment due for school. This was one of her last assignments for Grade 6. She was a little bit whiny and panicked.
In our conversation she used words like confused, I don’t know, I don’t get it, I can’t do it.
I totally understood. This was exactly how I was feeling about my own hard things.
I knew she could totally do her assignment. I knew that she was completely capable and that she would do amazing on it as soon as she decided she could.
The only thing getting in her way was that she was choosing to not know this.
I could see this so clearly, she could not.
In an uh-huh moment I realized that the confidence and certainty that I had in my daughter was exactly what I was lacking in myself.
Here’s what I realized:
I actually do know that I can totally do the hard things that I am faced with this week.
I am completely capable and I will do an amazing job as soon as I decide I can.
I have so much evidence to back this up when I decide to be willing to see it.
I can choose to keep avoiding it but I know that by doing this I will create more ‘hard’ for myself.
So, instead of avoiding them I am going to face them head on.
It’s not going to look perfect.. and it’s going to be uncomfortable, but I can totally do hard things.
I want to be the kind of person that is strong enough to go right through the hard things and come out a better person on the other side because of them.
I want to be living proof that “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”